tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-49349577076402322622011-07-08T01:27:32.401-07:00A clear-minded look at men, women, and everything in between them.Hitorinoreply@blogger.comBlogger211100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4934957707640232262.post-24718880569662622592010-04-03T13:10:00.000-07:002010-04-03T14:09:43.191-07:00

For putting me on to mind maps.In case anyone's wondering what the social theory I've been puttering with but not posting about concerns, this is an (admittedly cryptic) sneak peek at about 1/3 of it - what I've been thinking of as anhedonic drives. The interaction of stuff like language coding, cognitive dissonance, the documented correlation between well-being and sense of control, and where

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As near as I've been able to determine, the community isn't receptive to the most important analytical stuff I've done about social dynamics since my last monster post.That said, I've considered writing one big synthesis post about all the stuff that the community did/could handle.

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...And I've got a question. I was recently approached about the possibility of selling a pretty affordable (~10$) POD version of some of my material. I've been considering the possibility, particularly, in the case of the I Can Give Head material; I figure, for the same reason that I set up the website in the first place, some guys might want to have a copy of the text lying around that's not

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"-- even that wasted I knew to not make out with him at all costs, though," I say. "So he cracked - this is weird - a lot of boys do this. If you dodge giving them a clear-cut yes or no signal for long enough, they crack - I think of it as cracking - and then they just end up telling you their problems."He's laughing.I say, "It's true! And weird. They're all -- 'Sex, sex!' and then suddenly it's

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Snippet from a recent four-hour catch-up call with one of my absolutely favoritest boys:"Did I ever tell you about the first time I met HBHunter's family?" he asks me."No," I say. "Tell!""Well," he says, "she told me to come over, but I guess she hadn't told her parents I was coming or anything. So I arrive at the house and the first thing I see is -- outside in the front yard, hanging from a

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This is how I met my right-hand man: when I was sixteen, I met a boy who could read me better than anyone else I've met, before or since - better, in fact, than my immediate family. Well, I figured at the time, if he's going to read my fucking mind anyway, I might as well just tell him what I think.Socially, you could imagine him as a guy with the eye of a master craftsman but whose only tools

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A very different boy, a very different day -"A lot of girls say they're okay with you dating other people," he says, "but when it comes down to it they're really not.""It's one of those situations where the proof is kind of in the pudding, I guess" - because I've already said my peace on that."If the pudding is pictures of you fucking other dudes," he says - and we haven't even met yet much less

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I had him deleted from my phone for a month and a half before we cleared the air-"Tell me you weren't avoiding me," I told him, "and I'm prepared to provisionally not-hate you"So now he goes out of his way to show me I'm wanted. "We're thinking of coming down to visit," he says - meaning him and a friend I've never met who wants to try his luck with me - "but you're an hour and a half away.""Well

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I learned to give head in a very incremental way; for me, it was a process of learning one small simple aspect of the whole to the point where I could do it without paying attention - acquiring a muscle-memory -- and then going on to the next. I'll explain it the same way; I encourage guys who may be reading this to be patient and encouraging with women who are learning, and women to be patient

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"I'm pretty open-minded," I say, "but I don't really bring stuff up that I want to do sexually, for the most part.""Well," he says, "what have you thought about?""Idunno," I say, "I'm not used to talking about it -- it's hard to just think of a list.""We'll break it down," he says. "In education, we call this chunking."

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Mutual fuckup: he was my best boy, until the sex. His fuckup, really, except he fucks up in precisely the same way with essentially mechanical regularity, and this time it was me. In this sense, my fuckup; rewind a week and watch my interest level blind me to the backbrain whisper that knew exactly what was going on. That's the power of game, I guess - nobody's immune."It's funny," I say, "how

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I just bought new batteries for my handy portable tape recorder. You may notice that the writing style of this post is a little different than my usual; that's because I dictated, then transcribed it.One of the most important realizations that I've come to in the course of thinking about human beings, human behavior and human relationships is an idea that came to me suddenly while I was reading

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This is for the woman I was four years ago; this is what I looked for then, and didn't find. I'm not even sure if there's an audience for it -- if you enjoy it, please let me know. If I'm the one writing, this is where an honest intro to Game, for women, starts.You are a woman.For a long time -- perhaps without even realizing it -- you've been searching, and this search is rooted in the knowledge

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I was talking with a friend of mine last night about the mechanics of guys getting laid in social circles, versus the mechanics of girls doing the same. He's one of those guys that the community would call a "natural". We concluded the following:If you're a guy and you sleep with one girl in a social circle, it gets easier to sleep with all the rest of the girls.If you're a girl and you sleep

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So I recently mentioned, on an ASF thread, that I'd been thinking about writing up a guide to Game for Girls.I've been thinking about this a lot.I'm not ready to write it up yet, but I have a few more thoughts in order than I did at the time when I first mentioned the idea. I'm more of a strategist than a tactician, so this is a post about strategy. I also tend to work from inner game to outer

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So, I'm sure most of the guys who still check this blog are assuming it's dead.It's not, though! Promise. Your favorite Hitori is seriously brimming with ideas, presently, many of them worth sharing. Just been a little stalled on the actual writing-down bit. I should be back with you soon.

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The Chicklogical Blog is on temporary lockdown for the month of November. I'll still get comments (and, in fact, should anyone wish to email me directly you can do so at chicklogic at gmail dot com), but there'll be nothing new until December. Enjoy your month!

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I have a confession to make: I'm cheating on my very first book review. Because events in life have conspired to cut in on my reading time, I'm going to review a book I've already read:Steps to an Ecology of Mind by Gregory BatesonIf you need your logical toolkit expanded and your critical thinking skills honed, I can recommend no book more highly than this one. Logical toolkit expanded, because

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I've been doing a lot of reading lately. In the interests of making the time-investment I put into all of this reading useful to other people, I'll be posting a review each week of some on-topic book, movie, or website that presently holds my interest.Current reading material includes: Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand, Conflict, Decision and Dissonance by Leon Festinger, Mind and Nature: A Necessary

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In Evo-Bio and Sloppy Thinking Part I, I introduced the ideas of Effective and Final Cause, and how they might be important to social theorists. This post won't make much sense if you don't read that one first. If you've read that post already, you should remember the limits I placed on where each type of causation applies:*Effective Cause exists in all physical systems.*Final Cause exists in

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This post is intended to help guys (or girls!) interested in social dynamics to think clearly and cleanly about the "why"s of human behavior. In particular, I think folks who put themselves in a teaching or "dating guru" position have a responsibility to at least be aware of whether the things they teach are logically sound, because there's a lot of very sloppy thinking flying around. These bad

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